Francis is one of my favourite kids at the hospice. His limbs are slender and disabled, but this doesn’t stop him from trying to move them. He uses his bed rails to lift himself up. He tries to hold on to his toys. He claps with his feet when I say “clap for Jesus”.
I always thought he was going to be confined to his bed, and eventually, a wheelchair for the rest of his life. But day by day, he continues to prove me wrong. It’s inspiring to see him wriggle on the floor, moving from one point to another. He also does so quickly. In his mind, he is completely unstoppable.
One fateful evening, I set out to cook pepper soup. Not the regular dish, but Omoyo as it is called in Yoruba language. It is usually made with blended fresh pepper and many spices. I was meant to have it with eko aka agidi, but was too lazy to get out of the comfort of my house to purchase it. So I settled for rice, which is equally nice.
While the rice was cooking, I got carried away with an Instagram post I was trying to upload. And sadly, the rice got burnt.
Now, at that point, I had two options:
1. Get disappointed and angry, pour the rice away and start all over.
2. Still be angry but manage to eat it with dissatisfaction.
Some musings for the new year! Read, reflect and share your thoughts…
Have you ever heard of the Four Burner Theory?
No? I thought so.
Imagine that your life is represented by a stove with four burners. Each burner symbolizes one major quadrant of your life.
- The first burner represents your family.
- The second burner is your friends.
- The third burner is your health.
- The fourth burner is your work/business.
The Four Burners Theory states that “in order to be successful, you must turn down one of your burners. In order to be really successful, you must turn down two.” In other words, if you want to excel in two areas of your life, for example, in work and marriage, then your friends and health may have to suffer. If you want to be healthy and succeed as a parent, then you might be forced to dial back your career ambitions. There’s also the option of dividing your time equally among all four burners, but you have to accept that you will never reach your full potential in any given area.
So what do we do?
“You will be wounded many times in your life. You’ll make mistakes. Some people will call them failures but I have learned that failure is really God’s way of saying, “Excuse me, you’re moving in the wrong direction.” It’s just an experience, just an experience.” – Oprah Winfrey
Welcome back to the workflow, ladies! More quotes after the link…
Are you a rising lady boss in the creative space? Nnedi Okorafor is a Nigerian-American sci-fi author making waves in the industry. Perhaps you have heard of her. With many awards under her belt, she is living proof that a love for Nigeria and a wild imagination can set you apart for greatness.
Read on to learn her story:
Nnedimma Nkemdili Okorafor was born in the United States to Nigerian parents from Imo State. She was raised in Chicago, US but stayed connected to her roots, visiting Nigeria often with her family.
How she discovered her passion
In high school, Nnedi was a star tennis player, respected amongst her peers in fact. Her sports dreams were sadly cut short though by a scoliosis diagnosis. It even threatened her ability to walk. As it turns out, it was during this time that her passion for writing grew as she wrote stories for fun during recuperation. She would go ahead to become a PhD holder in English from the University of Illinois, Chicago and Professor of Creative Writing at Chicago State University. She was also an associate professor of creative writing and literature at the New York State University, Buffalo.
“The bigger the dream, the higher you can fly. You can achieve anything you put your mind to. Just start from somewhere.” – Mo Abudu, CEO, Ebony Life Television and Films
More quotes after the link…